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  1. Still in the Storm

    Still in the Storm
    • January 24, 2016
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    • Posted by Veronica Clarke
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    For some reason I have recently had several challenges that have caused me to struggle with feelings of anxiety. In my previous post I shared how I overcame those feelings by Trusting God.  Trusting God was the subject of our most recent video conversation for the website. In the video,...

    fear, prayer, triggers, trusting

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  2. He Sees What I Don’t See

    He Sees What I Don’t See
    • December 28, 2015
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    • Posted by Veronica Clarke
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      One of the biggest struggles that I have is not complaining, whining, and resisting my new life situation. It’s hard because this isn’t something that I can just forget about; it’s in my face everyday. When I roll over in the morning, when I walk by the family photos in...

    acceptance, faith, prayer, trusting

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  3. Prayers are answered-but not how we think they should be…

    Prayers are answered-but not how we think they should be…
    • November 3, 2015
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    • Posted by Ashley Gardner
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    As I was looking on my time hop today I had posted this picture 4 years ago today. At the time I didn’t know if he was ever going to answer my prayers. I didn’t know what part of this saying was for me yet. Now looking back it was...

    infertility, prayer

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  4. Personal Love

    Personal Love
    • June 16, 2015
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    • Posted by Jensen Hall
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    We stood at the top of the tower, overlooking the magnificent field that was once a battleground. There was a peaceful and even spiritual feeling for me as we pointed out different locations that momentous occasions happened in the history of America. The last time we were in Gettysburg, we...

    adult children, inspiration, patterns, perspective, prayer, setbacks, triggers

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  5. Mountains to Climb

    Mountains to Climb
    • May 5, 2015
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    • Posted by Jodi Heitz
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    It’s been a little over 8 months since Jamie died and I’m here to tell you that although I’m still striving to live life after loss, I’m tired. This grief journey is a long one. Long and painful. I have likened it to climbing a mountain; the tallest, roughest terrain...

    despair, hope, prayer, setbacks

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  6. The lessons I’ve learned from my husband’s death, 11 years later…

    The lessons I’ve learned from my husband’s death, 11 years later…
    • April 10, 2015
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    • Posted by Julie Toone
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    Sometimes it feels like I have been living the last 11 years for a lifetime and at the same time it amazes me at how fast it really has gone. Jake was killed in an accident working in a coal mine 11 years ago.  I had 3 small boys and a new...

    acceptance, choosing, grace, How do I go on, prayer, scripture, trusting

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  7. Answering the Questions of Suicide

    Answering the Questions of Suicide
    • April 1, 2015
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    • Posted by Melinda Mack
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    Death by suicide is certainly a complicated grief. This grief rollercoaster is amazing. If you think there is a rollercoaster in the world that can manage the twists, turns and insanity of grief, you would be wrong. Grief is unpredictable, follows no rules and comes at you without warning. It...

    mental illness, prayer, suicide

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  8. The Waves of Grief

    The Waves of Grief
    • April 1, 2015
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    • Posted by Christopher Hostetter
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    Grief is like walking along the beach, always trying to move forward down the path of life. Sometimes the waves come up to your knees and you can still press forward, but sometime you get crushed and washed aside and it takes a little bit to get back up on your...

    changing, grace, grief, prayer, spiritual(grief)

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  9. When Dark Clouds Hover and the Sky Seems to be Falling In

    When Dark Clouds Hover and the Sky Seems to be Falling In
    • November 13, 2014
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    • Posted by Veronica Clarke
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    I am officially two years out.  Two years ago I couldn’t see ever getting to this point. My children are doing well and I have much to be grateful for.  However, yesterday the sky seemed to be falling in… Legal and financial concerns took over most of the day, and...

    anxiety, prayer

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  10. Fear with Faith

    Fear with Faith
    • October 30, 2014
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    • Posted by Ashlee Birk
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    Tonight after I tucked all the kids in bed Bostyn came running out into the hall. She grabbed on to my hand and pulled me back into the twins’ room. She was a little bit shaky and said, “Mom . . . today at school we watched a video about...

    \, faith, fear, prayer

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  11. Acceptance Brings Peace

    Acceptance Brings Peace
    • October 29, 2014
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    • Posted by Veronica Clarke
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    This morning I was in tears again.  Little things seem to be striking chords that I thought were long buried.  I went running to clear my head and while I ran I listened to one of my favorite speakers, Richard G. Scott.  Having lost two children and then his wife...

    acceptance, accident, prayer

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  12. Prayer: the Power of Opening up the Windows of Heaven

    Prayer: the Power of Opening up the Windows of Heaven
    • September 23, 2014
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    • Posted by Veronica Clarke
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      Lately I have really come to enjoy and depend on the power of prayer in my life, yet before my husband’s death I often struggled to open the widows of heaven.  How do you take your prayers from simple pleadings, or rote recitations to powerful entreaties that call down...

    prayer

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  13. Greater Peace and Direction through More Powerful Prayer

    Greater Peace and Direction through More Powerful Prayer
    • September 11, 2014
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    • Posted by Veronica Clarke
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            We all see powerful inspirational pictures about prayer, like this one above, that in the moment give us a feeling of peace and a boost to tackle the day, but then later when we actually get around to praying we struggle to find any real spiritual...

    prayer

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  14. Is it easier to believe that God does not exist?

    Is it easier to believe that God does not exist?
    • August 10, 2014
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    • Posted by Veronica Clarke
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    You may not believe in God, or you may believe that He is a governing force that started this world into motion but cares very little about any of us individually.  All of the bad and evil in this world may lead you to believe these things… “How could God...

    faith, God, prayer, spiritual(grief)

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  15. There is an unseen war going on here

    There is an unseen war going on here
    • March 21, 2014
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    • Posted by Veronica Clarke
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      There is an unseen war going on here between good and evil,  and our souls are the casualties.   More and more I feel that life here on earth is an illusion… It is a distraction to the real purpose.  Everyday we go through the motions of life thinking...

    choosing, prayer

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  16. I Built My Self-Worth upon the Sand

    I Built My Self-Worth upon the Sand
    • February 16, 2014
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    • Posted by Julie Toone
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    One of the first major lessons I learned after Jake died was a lesson in Self Worth. When I was a young girl and a teenager I had a terrible self-esteem.  I had a great family, great upbringing and very loving parents.  But, I still thought I was worthless and that no one...

    mental(grief), prayer, self esteem

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  17. Healing = Courage + Action + Grace (PART 4/5)

    Healing = Courage + Action + Grace (PART 4/5)
    • January 30, 2014
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    • Posted by Veronica Clarke
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    KEY COMPONENTS FOR HEALING: ACTION   The scriptures teach us, “Knock and it shall be opened unto you.”  Knocking is acting.  So often we find ourselves trudging through life looking at our feet or simply sitting in the mud.  We think that we are all alone and forsaken.  We may...

    choosing, fear, grace, prayer

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  18. Being Watchmen of our Thoughts

    Being Watchmen of our Thoughts
    • January 30, 2014
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    • Posted by Veronica Clarke
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      So how do we get to a place that allows us to more freely know God’s will and access His Grace? (This is a continuation of the post In the Flow )   We have to be good Watchmen. Like the Watchmen on the tower in Jeremiah 51:12 If we are good watchmen then...

    grace, inspiration, prayer

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  19. #2 How have Prayer and Meditation Aided your Healing?

    #2 How have Prayer and Meditation Aided your Healing?
    • January 26, 2014
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    • Posted by How Do I Go On?
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    We will be discussion how the tools of prayer and mediation can help you recenter and regain focus when you feel troubled and anxious.  We share insights on how to have more powerful prayers and how our concept of prayer has change throughout this journey. We invite you to learn...

    prayer

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  20. People ask me how I get through this…

    People ask me how I get through this…
    • November 14, 2013
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    • Posted by Veronica Clarke
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      My answer is this… Faith and Prayer “Improving our prayers should be one of our deepest desires if we are genuinely serious about growing spiritually.” “Prayer can be a VERY DEEP and SOUL-SATISFYING EXPERIENCE. It is the means which we can DRAW CLOSE to our Heavenly Father and understand...

    prayer

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Our Grief Program

We welcome you to our site and invite you to join our community and participate in our interactive approach to help you move through grief, actively heal, and then begin to move forward.  We want you to know that you are not alone in the things that you are feeling and experiencing. We and others have walked this path and recorded the things that we have learned in the process.  These are the things that have worked for us and have accelerated our healing.

Alone we may feel weak, but together we can support and lift each other. We invite you to join us on this journey of hope, healing and becoming
Grief Program

FAQ about our Grief Program

Where do I start?

Check out our self assessment to help you determine where to begin.

Learn more about where you are and areas that you can focus on that will help you cope, come to greater understanding, and feel peace as you move forward.  You can follow our recommended order, or you can read through the subheadings and determine which areas you feel will be the most helpful to you. You control your own learning.

Self Assessment  

How does the program work?

We have created specific action pages for each badge

These center on specific practices to help you manage your grief, help you heal, and find new purpose as you move forward. No matter what phase you are in, we have support materials to guide you on your path. Each badge will invite you to LEARN, ACT and then SHARE your experiences. This three fold process helps you internalize the things you learn and grow through this experience to become someone stronger and better equipped to deal with your future.

How much time do I need to devote to this?

 You will emotionally be better able to consistently handle your life if you devote sometime to study everyday.

You set the pace of your own healing and growth. You can go as fast or as slow as you desire. However, You will benefit from time for daily quiet introspection. It may be helpful to schedule a specific time everyday. Finding time may require that you turn off the radio in the car, watch less television or spend less time surfing the internet. Initially you may struggle to find time, but as you create this habit, you will find that you will desire and crave the empowerment and strength that you will derive from dedicated study and practice. As you find it helping, you may even gradually increase the time you allot for this practice.

How will working on badges help me ?

The more we actively do, the more we learn.

Think of your performance on an exam in a class in school based on the following scenarios.

  1. You just listen to the lecture
  2. You listen and take notes
  3. You listen, take notes and then study those notes.
  4. You listen, take notes, study, and then write a paper on what you have learned.
Which scenario will help you internalize and understand the material the best?

The greater the effort, the greater internalization.  Working on the badges will take you through thought processes that will help you to heal more completely and experience a great level of peace in your life.


Please Note:

The information provided at How Do I Go On functions, on the website and or on the Facebook pages are not to be interpreted as professional advice. How Do I Go On provides peer to peer support to bereaved persons by others who have experienced loss of a loved one, at any stage of their grief regardless of age, religion, race, etc. None of the How Do I Go On support group facilitators, Officers or Board of Directors are professional therapists or counselors. All seminars, workshops, webinars, videos and meetings are intended for educational and informational purposes only. Any professionals that may attend and/or speak at our functions do so only to share their experiences. How Do I Go On is not liable for the misrepresentation of any material provided or discussed at any of our functions.

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