When loss is intermixed with abuse conflicting emotions arise that result in guilt, trust issues and the ability to leave the past and move forward. People often mourn what ‘might have been.’ Anger can result and become all consuming. What are the best ways to move forward after the separation from or death of an abuser?

Surrendering to the Healing Process
“Getting over it” comes by surrendering to the healing process–letting the memories come up, expressing the emotions, facing the lies & nurturing yourself. It’s common to try to “get over it” by putting on a happy face & avoiding the memories through some addiction. It’s hard work to avoid the memories & it’s hard work to heal, but avoidance makes things worse & facing them makes them better.

Christina Enevoldsen

It's Not a Statement About You
The way people treat you, is a statement about who they are as a human being. It is not a statement about you.


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    Crack the Walls

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The Power to Soften the Sting

God’s light is real. It is available to all. It has the power to soften the sting of the deepest wound

Dieter F. Utchdorf