Death, after long-term illness, typically generates additional issues to over come. Often times so much energy was spent on hoping for a cure–focusing on getting well–that often death was not discussed or considered. The care of a loved one over an extended period of time can leave the caregiver exhausted and without purpose after their passing. Many experience conflicting emotions. They feel relief because the loved one is no longer suffering and the burden of care has been lifted—yet they also feel guilt for having those thoughts. In addition, guilt over imperfect interactions during the extended care period and worries about whether they did enough begin to surface.
Daniel and Melanie Hedlund found out Daniel had cancer in December 2007, three weeks after being married. They share how they came to terms with either outcome.
From Our Blog on Illness
- July 21, 2015
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(Post written one month before Bart’s passing. . .) I have always loved hymns. Especially Christmas and Children’s hymns. They are filled with such warm, wonderful memories of my past. I realized tonight, that one hymn in particular can bring The Spirit in to my heart more than any other...
- March 13, 2014
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One of my favorite hymns is Amazing Grace. I find myself humming the music when I am stressed. The sweet and poignant message brings incredible hope. Most often, we associate the idea of being “lost” with having wandered away from childhood teachings, “spiritually lost;” or losing an object, “I lost my keys;”...
- January 26, 2014
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I was looking at pictures of Paul last night. It was strange to see the impact that cancer truly has on someone. It can take a vital, healthy person and literally age them and destroy them before your eyes. I remember thinking as I watched my husband’s health decline so...