Just when you think you have things under control and you feel like your grief is behind you, an unexpected wave of grief can come crashing in. Understanding triggers and knowing that they will cause those feelings to resurface at times can help you learn how to cope effectively with those unexpected waves of grief not only in yourself, but in your children and other loved ones as well.

Our Choice
Getting knocked down in life is a given. Getting up and moving forward is a choice


Zig Ziglar

Wounds Take Time to Heal
Wounds don’t heal the way you want them to, they heal the way they need to. It takes time for wounds to fade into scars. It takes time for the process of healing to take place. Give yourself that time. Give yourself that grace. be gentle with your words. Be gentle with your heart.


Dele Olanubi

  From the Editors Desk

  1. “If They Only Knew…” Putting on a Brave Face

    As time passes, grief becomes less apparent to those around us. People forget about our loss because it is not in the forefront of their lives. We do more of our grieving out of the public eye. We grow and we try to make the best of what life has...
  2. The Processing of Turning Outward: Overcoming Roadblocks

          For the last two months I have really been struggling, being sent back into grief and crying for a period almost everyday.  I have been asking,   “What in the world is going on?   Why all of the sudden am I having such a hard time?”  ...
  3. Tears from the Heavens

      It’s raining this morning, and as I watch the tears fall from the heavens, it seems to match my mood.  The last two weeks have been a struggle for me.  I have learned that this roller coaster ride through grief has periods like this. No matter what I do,...

  Real Stories

The way we react to adversity can be a major factor in how happy and successful we can be in life. Joseph B Wirthlin shares four ways to help cope with difficult periods of life.

What Our Reoccurring Struggles Can Do for Us

Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength

Arnold Schwazenegger

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    Just Keep Moving!

    Two months ago I was riding my bike. I decided to take a short cut to get back to the main road. This short cut involved some dirt…and my bike got stuck…I went to pedal forward and my bike wouldn’t move. As I tried to pedal but couldn’t move I...

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  2. Battling the Dark

    Battling the Dark

    Some days I really work hard to fight the darkness.  The other morning was one of those days. 5:15 AM the alarm sounded. My early morning bible study class started in a hour, yet this dark forbidding blanket enveloped me.  I uttered a quick prayer as I rolled out of...

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  3. Avoiding the Trap

    Avoiding the Trap

    Sometimes we let Satan get the better of us. We listen to that wrong voice in our head and he wreaks all kinds of havoc.  He particularly loves to get issues started in families, and I played right into his hand. This summer when my oldest son returned home from...

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  4. The Second Year of Widowhood

    The Second Year of Widowhood

    I have had so much on my mind lately. So many things have been going on, and I have felt a bit overwhelmed. Quite a few things — personal things I am not inclined to share here — have been piling up to cause me to feel deeply. I find myself...

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