As we pass through grief and heal, we emerge a changed person

We equilibrate and find a new normal. This is a process of new discovery that can take several paths.

We equilibrate and find a new normal. Then the process of rediscovery begins. Life can be beautiful after loss.

Some will choose to remain single.  They will find a way to make a difference in their own spheres of influence.  They will search for new paths and do things that never would have been possible in their life before loss.  Others will quietly find ways to help others who are suffering, and they will find fulfillment in this quiet act of compassion.

Many will look for companionship, begin dating and possibly remarry, blending families with other who have lost spouses through death or divorce.

In this section we explore all of the issues and share what we have learned on this new path of life.  Life can be beautiful after loss as you keep moving forward, so if you feel that you are sufficiently healed to begin this part of the journey, we encourage you to join us and share your experiences and the lessons that you learn along the way.

The Life that is Waiting for Us
We must be willing to let go of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.

 

Joseph Campbell

We find that we are forever changed as we emerge from the loss of a loved one.  We cannot got back and so we must create a new future and a new ‘normal’ for ourselves and our families.  With that search often comes the need to discover a new purpose in life.  Tragedy can lead to greatness and the desire to make a difference in the world.  How do you discover your new purpose?  

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The lessons learned from loss instill in us greater understanding of pain, empathy, and compassion.  As we reach out with experience and understanding to help others who are suffering we often find additional personal healing and a new found purpose in life after loss.  Reaching out to help others helps to prepare us to move forward.

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The loss of a companion leaves in it’s wake a hole of loneliness and the desire for companionship.  How do you know when it is time to start dating?  How do you prepare family and friends if you choose to take this step?  What are the pitfalls and important things to know before you begin to date?

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A second marriage has a completely new set of parameter from a first marriage.  Additional family members are involved and need to be considered.  When is the right time to “move forward”? This is a hard question to answer because it is different for everyone.  It may feel right, but after a few set backs,  you may be left feeling like you aren’t ready anymore.  Remember, there is no set timeline and even bad experiences may prepare you for the future in ways you have not yet considered.

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Just when you think you have things under control and you feel like your grief is behind you, an unexpected wave of grief can come crashing in.  Understanding triggers  and knowing that they will cause those feelings to resurface at times can help you learn how to cope effectively with those unexpected waves of grief not only in yourself, but in your children and other loved ones as well.

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