Anger, Bitterness, & Hate

Anger is a normal stage of grief. We may feel angry with our spouse, someone who is responsible for his or her death, or even at God. Anger if embraced will lead to bitterness and hate. These emotions destroy our character and our relationships. Learning how to redirect thoughts of anger aid us in feeling the spirit and moving forward in healing.

The Dark Side
Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering

Towards Freedom
As I walked out the door toward my freedom, I knew that if I did not leave all the anger, hatred and bitterness behind, that I would still be in prison
Nelson Mandela

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Vendella is a mom of three whose husband was killed in Iraq. She shares her struggle through anger and how her faith has helped to heal her. Read more about Vendella and her faith on her profile page

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It wasn’t until I stared into the face of my life’s worst enemy that I realized he was just a man. It wasn’t him that held the power over me, it was my own hate.

The moment you are face to face with the past that has broken you—may be the same moment you come face to face with the knowledge of how to set it free. That moment when you realize you are the prisoner—not the man in chains—that is the time when you want to plea to your Father for true forgiveness.


Question & Answer

How do you resolve anger towards someone who has died?

How do you reconcile anger with God?