After Grief & Loss Becomes Manageable Then Healing Can Begin…

Healing and coping with grief and loss is a process that takes time and does not have a set ending point.  Healing also does not automatically happen with the passage of time; it requires EFFORT, CHANGE and GROWTH on our part.  As each of us have moved through grief & loss, independently we have noticed virtues and principles that when understood and acted upon help aid and even accelerate the healing process.  Below we explain the difference between virtues and principles and we also touch on different negative emotions that can act as roadblocks in the healing process as we learn how to deal with grief and loss.

Everyone comes to this point with different background and strengths. While reading can be informative, DOING is an essential part of making something part of your character. Some of these areas you may struggle with, while others will already be things that you have learned and innately do. As with any character trait or habit we wish to develop, we do not do so without effort. While reading can be informative, doing is an essential part of making something part of your character. We encourage you to join our community and participate in our “LEARN, ACT, SHARE” program.  Simply start where you are and move forward at a pace that is comfortable for you.  Over time if you are making progress in a forward motion, then you are successfully healing.

The Transformation of Suffering
As my sufferings mounted I soon realized that there were two ways in which I could respond to my situation — either to react with bitterness or seek to transform the suffering into a creative force. I decided to follow the latter course.

 

Martin Luther King Jr.

Virtues are the character traits that define us. A virtue is an habitual and firm disposition to not only DO good, but to BE good and give the best of ourselves. When internalized and acted upon, they help us to enjoy more peace in our lives. Virtues empower us and promote collective and individual greatness.

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Principles are basic truths or rules of conduct that when acted upon will aid in our healing. Principles should form the fundamental basis of our daily actions. When we choose to act on truth we put ourselves in the best possible place to receive strength and help. These truths can serve as guides to help us become stronger and better equipped to reach out and make a difference in our families, with friends and in the world.

Occational negative emotions are a natural part of life and grief. However, if we give a place in our hearts and minds for these emotions to fester, they will gain strength and lead to overpowering negative feelings. We can begin to uncontrollably emotionally spiral downward. Dwelling on these thoughts allows them to become part of our character and to literally define us. Learning how to redirect negative emotions by acting on Principles and Values helps us move past them and forward in our healing.