Helping Yourself Emotionally

The emotional aspect of grief is overwhelming and all consuming at first. Loss and emotional pain can causes crippling physical pain. Being able to feel the emotions, voice feelings, and begin to cope with strong and negative emotions will help you in working towards a new and healthier emotional normal.

To Cleanse the Heart
It is better to cry than be angry because anger hurts others while tears flow silently through the soul and cleanse the heart.


Pope John Paul II

Tears Have Wisdom
Tears have a wisdom all their own. They come when a person has relaxed enough to let go & work through his sorrow. They are the natural bleeding of an emotional wound, carrying the poison out of the system. Here lies the road to recovery


F. Alexander Magoun

  From the Editors Desk

  1. Taking Control of Your Grieving

        “Grieving is the process we go through that helps us let go of old hopes and dreams that we can no longer have and helps us establish new hopes and dreams that are more attainable.  It is an unlearned process and is a feeling process not a thinking...
  2. The Stages of Grief

    I read a very helpful article on the stages of grief written by Susan Anderson, a psychotherapist specializing in abandonment and loss, who experience both a divorce and then the loss of a second husband through death.  Her perspectives are well researched and the result of her observations and personal experience.  She...
  3. Preventing Grief from becoming Complicated Grief

    Certain Risk factor have been identified as contributing to Complicated Grief .  Knowing if you are at risk and following preventative measure can help prevent you from grieving in unhealthy manners. The following risk factors have been identified for developing Complicated Grief: An unexpected or violent death, such as with an accident,...

  From Our Experience

“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief…and of unspeakable love.” –Washington Irving I’ve loved this quote for a long time, but it took on more significance when I lost my husband. I often include this when I write sympathy cards to people, along with a box of tissues. Sometimes having a good cry is the most healing thing we can do. Sending love to each of you, especially those who are new to this widowed journey.

  Common Grief Reactions

Grief is the normal emotional response to the loss of a loved one.

  • Emotional numbness and loss of interest in life.
  • Shock, disbelief or denial right after loss occurs.
  • Loneliness and Anxiety from being separated.
  • Mourning and periods of sadness accompanied by crying.
  • Anger or guilt
  • Physical symptoms such as fatigue, loss of increase of appetite, and  inability to sleep or concentrate

As you work through normal grief you will come to an acceptance of your loss and you should be able to continue to function in everyday life even though days will still be hard and difficult.  If you find yourself lingering in these emotions and unable to function, it is important to seek medical help.

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