In families grief is unique and individual to every person.  As we choose to be empathetic, understanding and patient with each other, we can help the healing process and grow closer together in the midst of tragedy.

It is in the Home
It is in the home that we form our attitudes, our deeply held beliefs. It is in the home that hope is fostered or destroyed. Our homes are to be more than sanctuaries, They should also be places where God’s Spirit can dwell. Where the storm stops at the door, where love reigns and peace dwells.

Thomas S Monson

  Talking about Grief & Loss

5 Parenting Tips for Widows

In an interview with Karen Millsap from Widows at Work, Veronica Clarke shares what she’s learned about parenting her 4 children as a widow. She admittedly didn’t do everything “right” but that’s what’s so great about her story. She was able to learn WITH her children and in this video she shares the most important lessons. 

  From the Editors Desk

  1. 12 Ways to Help Teens Get through Grief

    I had 3 teenage boys and a pre-teen daughter when my husband tragically died in a plane crash.  None of my children grieved the same and so I had to look for different ways to help each other.  Here is a list of the things that were suggested by grief...
  2. Overcoming the Perfect Storm: Helping Teens with Grief

    “For those of you with teenagers… I call these folks my silent grievers.  These are the ones that grieve and most of the time we don’t know they are grieving until it is too late.” – Kent Allen We are grieving, our children are grieving and we just want desperately to...

  From our Experience

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My now 15 yr old daughter who started out the strongest is really struggling. The 2nd year has been very difficult for her, partly because of choices she’s made to numb the pain. I think 13 is a very hard age to lose a parent because you are still finding yourself and going through many changes.

My daughter was a senior in high school when we lost her dad. She grieved the most in the first year…a lot of mood swings. My husband was killed in an accident and unfortunately she was the one that found him. That was extremely hard on her, but she received some very good spiritual guidance and counsel that helped her to move past things. She has some really good friends that supported her and 3 big brothers that are there for her anytime she needs anything. She still misses her dad, but is doing really well with moving ahead with her life.

 Factors that Influence Teens’ Grief

  • The closeness of family relationships
  • Unresolved conflicts with deceased parent
  • Support of family and friends
  • Personality/ Maturity level of child
  • Circumstances of death
  • Religious beliefs
  • ‘Feeling’ their deceased parent

Some of these factors are beyond our control, but others we can change and improve. Universally this seems to hold true, the closer your relationship with your teen, the more influence you have to help them.  The more understanding and acceptance you personally have of your spouses death, the more you can help your children come to acceptance.  Keep in mind that not all teens fit the mold for teen grief.  Watch your kids, be involved, keep the communication lines open and realize that each one will be unique.

  Real Stories

Maintaining a Secure environment at home where children and teens feel loved it critical in helping them move through grief.  Focusing on our children, even when we ourselves are struggling can help the whole family heal. As a single mom, sometimes Conni felt empty and as though her plan for life had been derailed. She found comfort and support in the time she spent with her kids, whether they were jumping on the trampoline, riding bikes, or cooking.  “These experiences with my kids would be the things that would fill me up,” she says. “It’s something sweeter than I could have ever imagined.”

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  3. Delayed Grief and Grief Attacks

    Delayed Grief and Grief Attacks

    “We can go through the grieving process multiple times.  Sometimes they last hours, sometimes they last weeks, and sometimes they may last a couple of months.” – Kent Allen Children and Adult can have triggers that can send them back into grief, even years down the road.  Understanding that delayed...

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