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We invite you to act on the things you have been reading and to discover the difference that acting makes in your healing.

Below are a list of readings that each have specific questions to ponder and journal about.  After you have completed the readings and the questions, we invite you to try one of the challenges.  Keep track of your progress and then use the link to post back about your experience either on the forum or in the comment section of the related blog post. As you LEARN, ACT and SHARE your experiences you will find growth and healing in the process. Be patient with yourself.  Move forward at the pace that you and your circumstances allow, but try to do a little everyday and you will find relief from the pain of your grief.

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Today we will be discussing how choosing your reaction can be empowering. When loss happen, people often feel their lives are out of control, and we can begin to feel like victims. But each of us has the power to choose how we are going to respond in any given situation. 

LEARN: Read Post- How do I have courage to move forward in the face of change in my family?

ACT: Questions to ponder and journal about:

1. What can you do to improve family relationships at home?

Challenge: Schedule a weekly family night where you can enjoy time together and counsel together as a family. In your counsels work to understand everyone’s needs and to make compromises that everyone can agree with. After a month or two, journal about how this has improved relationships, warded off misunderstandings and created a more peaceful home environment.

SHARE: your experience here

LEARN: Read Post- Life Expert

ACT: Questions to ponder and journal about:

2. How can you better view your imperfections so you don’t loose hope and faith in your power to overcoming?

Challenge: Focus on the good things you are doing.  Journal about how you have made a difference everyday for 3 weeks.

SHARE: your experience

3.  What are the things you will never stop fighting for?

Challenge: Make a list and post it somewhere you will see it every day.  Recite it out loud daily!  Pray for help to work on these things.  Record your successes in your journal.

SHARE: your experience

LEARN: Read Post- Choosing JoySurviving and Living after the Loss of my WifeLife’s Too Short To Eat Dessert Last!, Finding Joy Amidst the Crashing Waves

ACT: Questions to ponder and journal about:

4. How can you better choose joy and to live in moments when you are tempted to withdraw and feel sorrow and self-pity?

Challenge: Make an active effort to choose to actively participate during an event or family gathering where you may be tempted to withdraw.  Allow yourself a chance to laugh. Focus on others.  Make a new memory with people you care about.  Write about and celebrate your success and evaluate your struggles.  Set a new goal how to improve.

SHARE: your experience here


LEARN: Read Post- Triggers, Delayed Grief and Grief Attacks, Taking Control of Your Grieving, Finding Joy Amidst the Crashing Waves

ACT: Questions to ponder and journal about:

5. What can you do to best cope when triggers occur in your life?

Challenge: Make an effort to identify and analyze triggers and your response when they occur.  Pray for help and choose the thoughts process you will go through to help calm yourself when those triggers happen.  Record your progress, analyze your reactions and make additional plans for future events.

SHARE: your experience here