Valentine’s Day? Hummmm


So what do you do on this day when there is no one special love of your life? I started first by expanding my “love” circle to my kids and their loves. Sent them all cards to arrive today. Then I went a step further and sent all the high school girls I work with at church a card, just in case no one thought of them as a Valentine. Yesterday, I started to think about my middle school church girls, what if they didn’t get anything? So while I was working yesterday, I bought the ‘Candy Grams’ the middle school was selling and had them delivered to their classes today.

But when Valentine’s Day actually came, I laid in bed all morning not wanting to deal with it or with the fact that maybe no one would remember me. Then I had to make an attitude adjustment. This was ridiculous. I got out of bed and started making cupcakes. When they were ready, I drove to my aunt’s house and told her she was coming with me. We delivered cupcakes to single friends we both new around town and a few other people we just love. Took us most of the afternoon. Then we went to a late lunch together. As we were getting ready to leave the diner, two of the young men from the high school came in and were waiting for their dates, who just happened to be two of my favorite girls. I teased the boys, gave them a few tips then made one more delivery.

Now I am home, stilling alone, still somewhat sad, but yet very happy because service helps us to think of others and not dwell so much on ourselves. I learned a lot from the wonderful people Donna and I visited today. Some who may be lonelier then me. I am thankful that somewhere in my life other people taught me to serve. Life is all about choices and attitude adjustments. Today I made a choice to adjust.  Happy Valentine’s Day everyone.

Questions to Ponder:
  1. How can choosing to serve help get you through the hard days?
Grace is the mother of 3 children, ages 14, 21, and 24 at the time of their father’s death. Grace is the author of the book, “Grace Under Pressure” and is part of a collaborative website to help women with abuse, depression and PTSD, called Healing for Women

She lives by the scripture, “Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the Lord thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest.” – Joshua 1:9

Inside Grace’s Thought: Surviving After Suicide

Husband committed suicide 2008

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